Wednesday, April 24, 2013

The Meaning of "Just That One" (as told to me by my most beautiful daughter).

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” ― C.S. Lewis

I was so very proud of my daughter yesterday evening as we sat curled up and on our couch. We were settling into a night of 'silly program watching' - something we do together when we feel our energy needs a little 'lightening.'

And, then it began - the buzz, buzz, buzzing or my daughter's mobile email alerts.

Joking, and in order to offer just a bit of a 'nudge,' I said, "You have so many friends. Do you know how many I have? One."

To which she replied without missing a beat, "Do you know how many friends you really need, Mom? Just that one."

Yes, indeed - friendship is not measured in quantity, rather in the brilliance of just 'that one.'

It's that gentle knowing and acceptance, and that most unconditional kind of love.

It's in the limitless offerings of trust and of hope, when all other paths seem to fail.

But mostly, friendship is...

That feeling of knowing there's none other in your life that will care for you in much the same way.

She's right, you know, my daughter..that saying that what we really need is just 'that one'. 

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen, The Road to Daybreak: A Spiritual Journey
  Namaste, and much love to you, my most beautiful and brilliant of friends.